Thursday, January 5, 2012

moving in. together.

There was no reason for Rudy and I to move in together. Long ago. We just did.

It wasn't out of necessity. It was simply an opportunity.

Rudy had a roommate. I lived at home.

His roommate met a girl. Moved in with her.

Rudy didn't need a roommate.

Nor did I need a new room.

Yet, one day as we were walking around the apartment complex he was living in we simultaneously wondered, "Why not?"

By the following month, we had signed a rental agreement for a one bedroom, one bath apartment. Top floor.

"Why?" my mom wondered.

"Why?" Rudy's mom questioned.

"What's the point?" my mom inquired.

"It doesn't make sense," Rudy's mom stated.

It didn't need to make sense. We both thought. To anyone but us. We just knew it was what we wanted to do.

Live together.

Before marriage.


  1. "Why?"

    "What's the point?"

    "It doesn't make sense."

    I read a blog yesterday written by a man who believes that marriage is an unnecessary and ridiculous undertaking and those who go that route are, in his view, idiots. He's a good guy and has been in a happily monogamous relationship for over a decade. He's not anti-love, just anti-marriage. I see a lot of people who seem to feel that way.

    Times sure have changed.

  2. My hubby and I did too. We started dating and were both needing a place to live so we rented this cute little a-frame farm house that had two little bedrooms downstairs and a converted attic space with a bedroom and bathroom. Loved that little house. We just thought it'd be dumb for both of us to be paying rent and bills, so why not split the cost. That was almost 9 years ago (next month!)

  3. Now look where you are, and how far you have come, over 25 years later, still loving!

  4. And I've always wanted to live alone.

  5. Glad that it worked out well for both you :-) Happy new year!!!

  6. Makes so much sense. Thanks a lot for your lovely comment. Will mail your giveaway end next week. My sister is carrying it for me to the US on Tuesday and she will mail it to you end next week. Sorry for the delay

  7. I guess that proves Moms don't always know what's best (but we won't tell our kids). So glad things worked out so well.